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Jun. 7th, 2013 01:40 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
jeshyrI have suddenly become stunningly intolerant of any fiction which involves people failing to have a relationship because they are too scared/dumb to tell the other person what they actually want.
I did not used to be like this. I wonder what changed?
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I did not used to be like this. I wonder what changed?
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Date: 2013-06-06 04:19 pm (UTC)i think that initially we are inclined to give people some slack, in the belief they'll grow out of whatever they're doing that irks. when they don't...
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Date: 2013-06-07 12:28 am (UTC)... or at least I feel old :)
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Date: 2013-06-08 02:51 pm (UTC)i never had any intention of turning it into a contest; i meant the "so there" in the spirit of "you darn kids, turn that noise you call 'music' down!" and other humorous cliches of old-fart-hood. instead, i've managed to irritate you, embarrass
i apologize to everybody...
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Date: 2013-06-10 05:53 am (UTC)only thing that embarrasses me is knowing there's a mirror of my old website out there with some goddess-awful stories on it.
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Date: 2013-06-06 05:15 pm (UTC)I mean, you know. that may not be your problem. But it's why my tolerance for that has gotten lower over the years.
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Date: 2013-06-07 12:50 am (UTC)It's irritating me a lot because it suddenly seems that 90% of my podfic revolves around idiots who refuse to tell the object of their affection how they feel. Hmmm. That's about vulnerability and not being willing to be vulnerable ... perhaps that's what's getting me? It feels more important though I couldn't say why.
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Date: 2013-06-07 04:05 am (UTC)none of this has ever made any sense to me. why don't they just say how they feel? (although i do understand a reluctance based on fear of rejection - but, hey, nothing ventured, nothing gained!) i just never managed to grok complicated courtship rituals. but, "i like you a lot, i'm very attracted to you, i'd like to have sex with you, i think i'm falling in love with you," didn't work the way i expected it to :-(
(nevertheless, you were perfectly right in talking me out of buying the velvet underpants.)
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Date: 2013-06-08 08:48 am (UTC)I suspect it has to do with people not being willing to be vulnerable. As you said, fear of rejection is a biggie and that can be too enormous to jump over and I do grok that, but people who aren't willing to be vulnerable at ALL by hinting or saying that they want somebody ... suddenly I am all HATE MAIM DESTROY ARGH HULK SMASH which is quite odd....
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Date: 2013-06-08 09:09 am (UTC)i'm older than
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Date: 2013-06-08 09:58 am (UTC):-D